Your Intentional Goal for the new season.

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New sports season, practice, school,

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homework, games, everything has started.

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We have a choice here. Go on as usual and let

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the routine lead us or create an intentional system

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to improve and get better. I am Barbara, family and mental performance coach.

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And yes, I'm Italian, so I embrace my accent, love my mistakes because they

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are always part of my style. And in our last episode

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we started the four step system to raise your awareness

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on goals. We assessed the emotional state,

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identified three challenges, picked three words

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to guide you and reflect on what you want to start, stop and continue.

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Do you remember this? What is your goal for next season?

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This is step two. We are talking mid term here, not long

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term, two, three years. Telescope goals. I have a whole episode

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about those. You'll find the link in the show notes if you are interested.

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These season goals should not only unlock

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motivations in everyday life, but also set you on

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the path to developing new skills and growing

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intentionally. Isn't this the purpose? Yes,

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I think so. And you know, when I ask to my athletes,

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what is your goal for this season? The answer are very

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general. I want to be the best. I want to be a

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starter. I want to reach regionals. These are really

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amazing outcomes. Everybody wants to be the best,

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everybody wants to start. Everybody wants to

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reach a super high regional level. But they are

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not fully under your control. So these are outcomes.

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So these are what you should work for.

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Too many variables. Coaches, decisions,

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opponents, referee, whether luck, whatever.

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But what you need are a different kind of goals. We already

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talked about this too. But performance goals are things that you

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can control if you act on them. Performance goals are

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about consistency, reliability, focus,

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responsibility and continuity. They are intentional.

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They come from you daily actions that if repeated,

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will bring growth, excellence and

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eventually the outcome that you wish to reach as

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being the best. For example, if your outcome goals is I want to

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be a starter, your performance goals might shift a little bit.

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Like maintain focus every session, be supportive

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with teammates, having always a positive attitude and good energy.

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Put the extra work, the gym, the endurance,

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the running, the mental training, recovery, nutrition.

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All these things that set you as a 360. The athletes

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improve one technical skill like passing a currency in soccer

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or clean a movement in gymnastics. All these small

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little goals, if consistently done already put

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you ahead of 90% of the athletes. Trust me,

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before rushing to write them down now that you understood what they

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are, use the Step 1 worksheet. If you don't have it, go back to

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the previous episode, download it or complete it. Whatever the

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link is in the show notes, look at the steps that we took Your guiding

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words. So these are your compass. If your word is discipline,

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then a goal might be create a weekly routine and stick to

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it. If your goal is confidence, I'm just throwing examples

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here. Your goal might be trust my skills in practice

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as much as I do in games. If your word is growth, ask yourself,

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growth in what? Technical, personal, mental?

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You have to be more specific. Then the second step. Your challenges.

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Every challenge can can become the barrier

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that blocks you or the opportunity that lifts

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you up. If your challenge is staying

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focused under pressure, your goal could develop a reset routine during

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games. If your challenge is low confidence,

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practice one confidence tool daily.

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Even physical challenges like building muscle or managing

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weight can turn into actionable goals with a plan.

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In this episode, we are identifying our goals. In the next one

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we will just go into the how. The third step that we had in

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the first worksheet was Start, Stop and continue tool.

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This tool helps you make your goals concrete. If you

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said you want to stop caring about what people think,

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your goal might be focus on yourself. Create a routine

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around it. If you want to start visualizing, then visualize

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for five minutes before going to sleep. So it's a process, but this

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is what you need to implement in your life. It's not only

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the outcome, it's how you reach the outcome. And you cannot

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reach an outcome if you don't change anything in your way of thinking,

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acting and behaving and talking. I am kind of generalizing

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here. Every athlete is different, but we are all in

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the same pattern of thought and actions. It may sound

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simple, but that's the point. We are not talking about dreams. We are now

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creating the path to reach them. We have awareness,

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discipline, commitment, clarity. All these small,

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big words. Together they will lead to the how.

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Now it's your turn to transform what we talked about today into

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three aspiring specific goals for this season connected with

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the reflection you have done so far. It won't take long because

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you already know what you want to improve. You already

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know what you want to reach and how you can improve

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or what you you have to improve. Rewrite them. Scribble,

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Scrabble. Until you recognize the ones that truly matter.

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Deeply, deeply. If you need help, ask for support. I will

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be more than happy to guide you in discovering them. Because when you align your

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challenges, remember the steps, your guiding words

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and your action. You are not just preparing for a season.

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We are preparing for what's coming next.

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It's like shaping a system that you can use every

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time you need a goal in any subject of your life. In any

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categories. Every time you step into something new,

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whether it's in sports, life or school,

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whatever it's, you are creating a system.

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Next Episode Step 3 Implementation, Actions and Planning

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this is my favorite because we are really going into the work there.

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So grazie for being here with me today. Share this episode with

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a teammate who needs to hear it and let's comment all together.