Trust: Your Bridge between Training and Performance.

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Hello. Hello and welcome back to another episode of

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let's go Mental. I'm your host, Barbara,

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family and mental coach with a quick reminder. I'm Italian,

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so love my accent because I know you will. And embrace my mistakes

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because I know I'll make many. So I would add mental

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and performance coach because, yes, I got certified.

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So walking the talk here, I'm doing the work in the dark when no

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one is watching. The same thing that you are doing. The extra mile to have

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the advantage, grow the confidence. And it is kind of the episode

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of the day. The topic today is trust. What is trust?

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It's a firm belief in the reliability,

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truth, ability or strength of

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someone or something. And in this case, that someone

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is you, believe it or not. Now, if trusting

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someone else is already tough, trusting yourself, your skills,

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your training, it's a paradox. But it can be even harder.

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Trust in yourself, it is not confidence. They are

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two different. Essential part of the game, but not the same.

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Confidence is knowing that you have the skills that you can perform well.

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Trust is deeper. Is relying on your

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training, putting your skills on autopilot

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and letting go. Listen, it's very difficult.

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This episode today will change your way. You see how

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you perform and how you train. They are both essential.

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I mean, confidence and trust. They cannot stand alone.

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They need each other to stand out. But you need to work

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on both to make them work perfectly. So let's come back to trust

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in order to define it better. Here is an example. Are you getting ready

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for school in the same way you are getting ready for a party? You'll be

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clean and nice for both, but you won't wear the same clothes or prepare in

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the same way. Are you getting ready for practice in

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the same way you are doing it for performance? If yes,

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here is the mistake. You. You can't use the

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same mindset in both moments. Practice and performance are two

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different words. They require different energy,

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different rules, and different mental strategies.

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In practice, you refine, question,

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challenge, adjust. You are allowed to make mistakes. You learn

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in performance. You trust. You move with flow

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and freedom. On one side, you prepare on.

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On the other, you execute.

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Simple, yes, easy, no. And most

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athletes get stuck exactly in this transition moment,

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the transition between practice and performance.

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They bring the practice mindset into the performance moment.

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And that's where things get complicated. Most of the time

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when you play tentative, you perform not with confidence.

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You are conservative. It's not about lacking skills. I know,

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I know you do. It's about lacking trust. What does

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this mean for you? What kind of mindset do you have when you

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train? Try to think about it. And I would like you to respond to yourself.

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Make your question to yourself. Write it down. What kind

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of mindset do you have when you train? You are focused.

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You think. You try, you experiment. You are curious.

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You have more time to think, to stop.

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Correct. Try again. You're using your subconscious

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mind, the educated mind, your cognitive controls on your

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thinking brain. And it works. You get better. You build confidence

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day by day. But when it's time to compete,

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you need to leave this mindset. Yes. At home.

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Let it home and take that one, the other one, the competition one

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like you change uniform. Are you using the same uniform for practice

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or for game? For a competition or for practice? No, no, no, no.

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This is exactly what you should do. Leave your uniform

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for practice at home. This is a great way to hook your

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mindset in your uniform. Just change uniform and shift.

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Same question here. What kind of mindset

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do you have when you perform? Write it down.

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Think, think, think about it. It's very important. During performance,

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you release. You allow everything you practice

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to take over. Letting your skills speak for you. You can micromanage your

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performance, your opponent, your routine. Not during the performance.

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This is your job. During practice, you have to trust your

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instinct. Letting your unconscious mind, the one that is in the

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back of your mind of your brain. Sorry. Your automatic

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responses, your motor memory, lead the way. Looks simple, right?

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So I just let one mindset home and I bring the

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other one to the performance. So how do you build trust?

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It's a process. You know that I like this word and I like to think

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that everything is a process. And here is the frame. It start

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before competition is reinforced during and

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reflected after. During practice, you question, challenge,

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adjust, ask, dare learn, build confidence,

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refine, make mistakes. Please make

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mistakes. If you don't fail during practice, you won't learn. And during performance,

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you choose to trust. Let go, keep it simple.

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Stay in the moment and play one thing at

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a time, one step at a time. After performance, you analyze,

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you reflect. This is very important. Critical but constructive.

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Reflect. You transform mistakes into

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your next plan. Three steps,

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very important. What you do in practice, what you do

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in performance. But this last one after performance, you should analyze

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every time after a performance what went good

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and what didn't. This is one of my favorite part of coaching.

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Helping athletes create that space where they can feel free

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to play, perform and enjoy. To show up. Yes, with trust,

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not fear. And today we have scratched only the surface. But if you

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want to go deeper into how to create your trust mindset,

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design your pre performance plan, build your reset routine or

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anchor yourself mentally when things go off track.

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I'd love to work with you because trust isn't magic but it

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feels like magic when you learn how to train it. Even becoming aware

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of the difference between the two mindsets, that alone is a

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game changer. Here is the truth. Mental training isn't one thing only,

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it's a habit. It's not a one time thing.

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Just like training your body, training your mind gives you the tools

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to perform consistently, bounce back from setbacks and stay confident

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under pressure. And if you're ready to go deeper, if you want help

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building your own mental game, reach out.

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I'd love to work with you or your friends or your team and help

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you train your mind like you train your body. If you like the episode,

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